So yeah. Thats kinda how these things go. That damn friend zone shit. I know it sounds old fashioned but smashing first asking questions later a recipe for disaster. One nighters need to be bought back to smash and dash status.
Folks really need to be friends first before they even consider dating. Start with a solid foundation and work on the building the relationship into something more from the ground up. Modern females "friends" is just a synonym for i want gf priviliges but i just aint tryna fuck. Literally the root of their own despair romantically.
Look if u care about her and urself i really think yall need to dial it back breh. For both yall sake. Yall definitely shouldnt be cohabitating. This chicks antics while she is in the long slow process of healing is going to piss u off. U going to take it out on her. Its going to fuck her up and make healing very difficult. For u both. She shouldnt be talking to any man but a professional.
Of course u cant control her, nor should u try, and u can lead a horse to water, ya feel me.
But im also projecting heavy too. U gone have to kinda listen to make ur own decision here. I just know treating wifey like she was my chick just cause her crazy ass said "ill be ya chick" from jump only lead to pain for us both. I had to treat her like just another one female relative for a while to be able give her the space, love and care she needed to do her own healing so she coule become a proper wife down the line. Shit was no picnic and was probably just dumb luck it even worked out at all.
Im sorry man. Know that cant be what u tryna hear.